To the Jin fans who frequent my LiveJournal.
I thought it would be nice to let you know my stand on the marriage between Jin and Meisa.
I actually shocked myself for being so calm when I first saw news of this. I guess, in my heart, I've always known and have already prepared myself for the arrival of this day. If you are a fan of Jin, you should understand his love for family, and that he have always always wanted to be a young father and was all prepared to start a family since a few years back. He would be turning 28 this year, and it's just the right and normal age to get married and start a new happy family who would be accompanying him for the rest of his life. And I'm glad he's found the one to do this with him.
To reemphasize, Jin is 28, he's a grown man who's able to think for himself and his family. I know some fans are overly protective of him, who might think he's not ready for marriage and he's just jeopardizing his career and that this is just not the right time. But really, as an idol, when's the right time to get married? There's never a right time. Jin probably knows the possible consequences of this action more than any of us and he still chose to do it which means this marriage is something irreplaceable and it is of the utmost priority to him to give Meisa the status in his life that she deserves.
As a fan, I know it might seem unfair that Jin is always doing things that brings about huge changes and we can't do anything but to accept it. But, we have to always remember he's a mere human being and he's not the idol type of guy who promises the fans that he would stay single because his fans are most important to him blah blah. He has always told us to find our own happiness, our own other halves and has time after time stressed the importance of family and how he wanted to get married and have his own kids.
Sometimes I really think the fans are the ones whom treat him like a puppet.
it's time to recap this.
"I'm standing here today because of the decisions I've made.
So these are my last words for all of you I've "betrayed".
The ones who love it, when I fit their mold.
Who scream and cry now saying "he's out of control".
Since I can remember you've told me what to do.
The way I talk, the way I act, the way I tie my shoe.
But even then I knew I had the right to decide.
Scared of punishment I hid it deep inside.
And if I'm exiled for my sins then fuck it.Cause I no longer want to be anyone's puppet.
Yep, this is his decision, the action he has chosen, he would shoulder the responsibilities and consequences that might follow. And I respect him for that. Don't treat him like a puppet you own.
Of course there's still a part of me that feels this pinch in my heart, like a parent whom can't bear to see their children getting married or smtg xD
But other then that, I truly just wish for the happiness of this newly wedded couple. That they would always stay together be it in happy or sad moments. That they would be a blissful couple with a lovely baby.
Dearest Meisa, please take care of Jin because he sometimes act like a 3 year old kid and smokes like a chimney. He is someone who gets lonely easily, catching a cold is also his forte, I hope you would have the power to make him stop smoking so much and would help him add a blanket whenever he catches a cold :) I'm sure he would be a man who would try his best to make you the happiest woman in the world. And he's so gonna swoon over your child in the future, but don't let him spoil him/her too much xD
To the bitter fans whom are still whining and bitching about the marriage...
You are not a fan of Jin Akanishi, you are a fan of your own youth, your own memories. You are not upset about Jin getting married, you are just upset that he didn't follow the script and plan you laid out for him in your head. To be honest, if you really think he's completely out of line, you should just turn around and walk away, stop complaining and whining. Because what you are complaining about has got nothing to do with Jin himself, it's probably just the fact that you can't get over yourself with your little lifelong plan for Jin. Jin make his own decisions, if you can't accept his decision, I really understand that and respect you for it, just turn around and walk away with your memories of him.
And please girls, don't do anything foolish. It's not worth it. Jin and Meisa don't even know who you are. Live your own life, don't lose to Jin's happiness. Be as happy as him or even happier. xD
This once again, made me think of how difficult idols' lives can get. They sell dreams and illusions to fans. And as much as people would be congratulating them, there would be this portion of people whom would hate on them and would never forgive them for bursting this happy bubble of theirs. Luckily for me, Jin has never ever attempted to create this illusion.
I truly just hope for the best for both his private life and his career, that he would continue to shine on stage. I would be continuing this Jin path. Who's with me? ♥